An Easy Guide To Bondage: How To Spice Up Your Sex Life
Have you ever wanted to try something new in the bedroom, but were too afraid? Have you always felt like your sex life was missing that “something?” If so, then bondage might be just what you are looking for. Bondage is a type of sexual play where one person will tie up another with items such as ropes, scarves, or handcuffs. It’s easy to get started and can be done by anyone who has themself some rope!
This article will teach you everything there is to know about bondage–from getting started all the way to tying up your partner.
Beginners Guide To Bondage
Although it can seem intimidating at first to try something new with your partner, there are ways that you can ease into things and get the ball rolling.
While bondage may look like complicated stuff on television or in movies, it isn’t nearly as difficult or scary as it looks! If done properly, there is no risk of injury whatsoever when engaging in this form of play. A lot of beginners and pros get their supplies and ideas from TheHotSpot.com.au and other such online companies as they’re a safe way to explore without having the pressure of an audience. This increases the fun while allowing for free exploration of the types of equipment you’d like to use. The biggest danger is probably getting carried away while blindfolding someone – make sure they know where they are at all times!
Here’s a step-by-step guide to get you started and make sure that you’re being safe:
Step 1. Understanding What Bondage Is In The Bedroom
The B in BDSM is the bondage portion of that type of play. It refers to the consensual typing up or restraining of one partner by another (usually in a sexual context). While the term bondage can undoubtedly conjure up all sorts of images, it can be as light or heavy play as both you and your partner enjoy and agree on.
Step 2. Know The Types Of Bondage
The bondage you’re most likely aware of is what’s seen in movies. Mainly tying the wrists and ankles to the bedpost, and while that heightens sexual pleasure. There are at least ten different types of bondage that can be practiced. This includes:
- Beginners Bondage
- Shibari
- Shinju
- Sensory Deprivation
- Suspension
All of the different types should be talked about, researched, and practiced before they’re performed. Both partners should also be fully aware and onboard before any type of play happens.
Step 3. Know The Safety Precautions To Take
It is important that all sexual acts are consensual. However, in the case of bondage, it is double important. Safety precautions should always be taken as it involves a level of vulnerability –another person placing trust in their partner to take care of them.
You want to make sure that the bonds aren’t too tight, can be removed quickly if the need arises, allow for proper breathing (as needed), and that both partners are comfortable and feel safe at all times. Often it is recommended to use a safe word or phrase or a variation of the traffic light/color system to communicate where your partner is mentally, emotionally, and physically throughout your playtime.
Step 4. How To Tie Up Your Partner With Rope Or Handcuffs For Maximum Pleasure
As mentioned there are different types of bondage and each comes with a different style of restraining your partner. For beginners, a simple knot is best. You can play with which body parts you’d like to restrain at a time. You can also have a blindfold for added pleasure. Communication is important at this stage.
Step 5. Know Your Limits
One of the most if not the most important steps is knowing and gauging your limits. This goes for both partners. What one partner can take or likes may not be the same for the other. There is no need to prove or push yourself beyond your comfortable limits. In the beginning, things can be exciting and feel amazing but it is very easy to go overboard and become overwhelmed. Take your time and allow both partners to enjoy the experience of heightened sexual and sensual pleasure while indulging in a new level of vulnerability and intimacy.
Step 6. Debunking Myths – Knowing Truth From Fiction
As you can imagine there are a lot of myths and misconceptions regarding bondage. Some of them are that enjoying bondage makes you a sadist or masochist (while nothing is wrong with either of those this is not true). You are in some way mentally unwell (also not true), or that you cannot/do not enjoy more tame forms of sex (definitely not true). Bondage is much more about heightening sexual tension, and trust/vulnerability between partners. All coming together to create a more intense sexual encounter. However, those that like bondage can and do enjoy other forms of sexual play and exploration.
Bondage is a creative way to spice up your sex life. It does take some research and effort. However, with both partners (or multiple if that’s your thing) being involved and active in the learning process it can be an extremely enjoyable addition to your sexual arsenal.
