It’s no secret that maintaining a relationship takes work and so does our sex lives. With busy lives, stress, children, age, health issues and a myriad of other reasons, sex seems to get put on the back burner. The longer we are in relationships and as we age, it seems like a non-essential thing to do or maybe, just another “chore” to add to our daily grind.
At least once a week
New findings suggest that it’s important to maintain an intimate connection with your partner, but you don’t need to have sex everyday as long as you’re maintaining that connection is all that matters. The magic number is at least once a week to maintain a happy and fulfilled relationship but people’s general happiness did not seem to increase with more sex. This was consistent no matter the gender, age or length of relationship.
Make foreplay a regular thing.
No, we aren’t talking about five minute foreplay before doing the do. It’s all about the small things during the day. Try flirty texts, a message to let your significant know that you are thinking about them, have a surprise waiting for them later in the evening or just letting them know you appreciate them can go a long way. Don’t be afraid to express your feelings. Be affection in public being affectionate in the full view of others is a turn on and provide plenty of foreplay.
Talk about your desires and spice things up.
Share your fantasies. Watch a sexy movie and talk about what parts you liked best. Setting up your fantasy beforehand and then playing it out for one another later can provide mental stimulation that helps you with the physical stimulation. Try new sex positions. Try one, try two, or try many. But, without fail, changing up what you would normally do will help you to create a new norm in the bedroom.
Sex toys can spice things up, not only for you, but as a couple as well. Of course, something new and exciting from time to time to keep the spark alive in the bedroom. You and your main squeeze are no exception! To that end, female and male sex toys are some of the BEST options for you to really ramp up your orgasmic intensity and add a little variety to your love-making. For some people, bringing a third party to bed can be a tad daunting sometimes, but vibrators, cock rings, dildos and many other items aren’t called sex toys for nothing! They’re meant to make partnered play time even more fun—and, trust us, they will be if you try them! Vibrators are one of those things that are in the “you get what you pay for’ category and it is better to get a good quality item, so you don’t have issues later. It is better to buy a popular brand like Lelo, pipedream products or Calexotics.
As we get older, and certain times of the month, our hormones can play havoc with natural lubrication/ dryness and we can need a bit of help. You don’t need to use lube, but it’s the key to orgasming practically every time you have sex (with someone else or with yourself). Let’s face it, sex without lube is like a water slide without water! There are three main bases for lube: water, silicone, and oil. Water-based lubes have no additives and are the least allergenic but can wear out quickly. Silicone choices provide extra wetness but some women are allergic to it. Oils are usually a last-ditch effort to lubricate, as it can destroy condoms and is hard to clean off. Typically, we recommend a water based lubricant like Swiss Navy.
We hope you have found our hints useful.